When you were a kid, did you played the “he loves me, he loves me not” game? Well, we have a harsh truth. Finding the answer is not as simple as plucking petals off a flower. Even more challenging, he might say he loves you, but the truth is far from that. You can take the how to know if he loves you quiz, but that is not reliable. So, the best way to be certain is to look at signs he loves you.
You probably have an idea of what is love and how it should feel. Well, your idea and his idea might not be the same. And sometimes, some of our ideas are plain wrong. The result is devastating. We might not even recognize the real thing. Even though real love comes our way and is in our backyard.
What we want to say is love is a tricky thing. Some guys say they love you, but they do not truly mean it. Others, love you a ton, but they are not ready to say it. They just show it.
So, let’s take a look at the surefire signs he loves you.
He looks like you are the whole world
Take a look at the way he looks at you. Do you feel special? Does he look at you like he cannot believe you exist? You will see it in his eyes. He might not tell you that, but he is totally in love.
Just remember, this is not a look of lust and desire. Instead, he has a certain level of awe and serenity in his eyes. He is calm, and his look is only for you.
He wants to give you everything
Real love is about giving. Our parents give everything to us. Ask any parent, and most will tell you they didn’t truly know real love before they had a kid. That is because it is only giving, and giving it unconditionally.
When you love someone, you want to give that person everything you have. And it is not about material possessions. You want to make them happy, you want to improve their lives, and so on. When a man gives you everything, he loves you.
You are his priority
We are all busy. We all have times when we cannot get our heads out of the closet. Whether it is work, school, or any other commitment. But when he loves you, he will find a way to spend some time with you, even if it is five minutes. He makes spending time with you a priority. When he puts you as priority, he is showing you the true signs he loves you.
Just do not exaggerate. There are times when you are a priority, but more important things are happening. Imagine you are in a relationship with a doctor. You cannot be his priority during surgery.
He sees you
We do not mean like he sees you are there physically. No, he sees what others do not. For example, he can see you are not feeling great, even though you are smiling. He sees how you interact with others. He sees how people feel in your presence, and how your mind works.
When he loves you, he sees everything you want to be, and he will help you get there. There are two surefire signs he loves you. One is his eyes, and his kiss. But we will talk about how to tell he loves you by his kiss another time.
He wants your advice
Whether this is work stuff, social life, or anything else, you are lucky. When a man seeks your opinion, he values you. And that is a surefire sign he loves you. He definitely respects you, admires you, and wants to know what you think. Respecting your opinion is one of the signs he loves you secretly.
He talks about the future
Does he make plans with you? Does he want to spend time with you in the future? Well, that means he is in for the long run. You are clearly a part of his future. That is a great sign he of commitment and that he wants you in his life.
Guys usually do not make plans for the future. Some guys do not know what they want to do the next day. So, when he talks about the future, it is next week, next month, and similar close distances. Do not expect him to tell you what he wants to do in two or three years.
He doesn’t forget little things
One of the myths about men is that they do not listen. The truth is they listen. But only when they want to listen. A man in love will listen and remember that you have a date with friends after work. He will remember it, and he will ask you how it was.
And if you mention small things, like, I need a new toothbrush, he will pick it up at the store. Men consume information about your life when they are in love. They find it hard to focus on anything else.
He is physically close to you
When a guy is in love, he will find an excuse to cuddle and be close to you physically. For example, he will sit next to you in a restaurant. He will be at your side during a party. Now, that last one might feel and seem clingy, but that is just guys being guys. You can say his closeness is one of the signs he loves you in bed. But that is another topic.
Men feel great when they are next to the woman they love and want to protect her physically.
His friends know about you
Another thing that men love to do is brag. And they do it all the time. Now, do not take this as a negative. You are not his trophy wife or something like that. He talks about the girl he is into to his friends and family. And he talks about things like your personality, where you work, what you do, and similar things.
So, the next time you are out with his friends, if they know a lot about you, he told them. And he loves you.
He misses you
This is one of the most controversial things. Men fall in love during a woman’s absence. Yes, they fall in love more when the woman is not near. He will shower you with love when you are here. But when you are not there, he will love you even more.
So, does your man reach for you when you are not home? Or does he disappear for days and then come out with a lousy excuse?
He keeps you updated
When your man keeps you in the loop, he is falling in love. He won’t leave you hanging. If he has a job he has to finish, he will keep you informed. And he does it because he wants to. Not because he has to.
He is not a quitter
If he is not running for the hills after your first date, or after a fight, he is a keeper. Men quit after a small fight if they do not love the woman. They do not like confrontations. But if he sticks around, he sees potential in the relationship. He is ready to invest in it.
He can get jealous
This might come as a surprise for you, but jealousy is a good thing sometimes. It is a natural reaction that men cannot control. Jealousy is among the most human emotions. When you think you are going to lose something, you fight for it.
But there is a thin line between being adorable jealous, and too controlling. Every guy is different, and every girl has her own limit. Some girls want more jealousy, others want less.
He wants to know your future plans
If you are looking for undeniable signs he loves you, this is it. If he plans a future with you and asks you about your future, he is on the hook. We said before men do not plan a lot ahead. But if he wants to know your plans, he wants to know whether he is part of them.
Last, but not least, does he uses the word “we” when he talks about the future?
Be Careful of These Signs
The same way there are signs he loves you, there are also signs he doesn’t care about you. So, be careful if you notice any of these signs. Be careful, there are also signs he wants to make love to you, but just for sex.
Here are some red signs to watch for.
- He makes you feel you are not good enough
- He makes you feel insecure
- Your guy ignores you
- He appears distant
- He doesn’t listen to you
- The man doesn’t respect your opinion
- Your guy doesn’t want to make plans about the future
- He only cares about sex
- He doesn’t take your advice
- His family and friends do not know about you
- He doesn’t buy you anything
- He cheats on you
- And last, but not least, he doesn’t trust you